Why would I be interested in talking about a topic like this?
I came from a family of 4 girls. Don’t feel too sorry for my dad, but our only claim to fame is that we were all born in January. So as you can see my mother was probably a very organised person.
The sisters were a very outgoing bunch of girls, all quite lively and one in particular, the youngest one, ended up being an entertainer. So I wanted to explain that she is obviously a massive extravert, and as a little child she used to grab the microphone, choreograph dances and perform in front of people when my parents were having a bit of a do, and she got heaps of attention and I often wanted do it but I would get too shy just before we went on and she would just carry on without me being there.
The third child was an extravert too and the two eldest ones, myself and my eldest sister were on the more introverted side.
So when people see me standing on the stage speaking now to hundreds or thousands of people they assume that I was born an extravert. When in fact, I was a born introvert.
Let’s have a think about that for a second, to me there is a sliding scale. There’s extrovert but there’s varying shades of grey of extrovert. Right up to my sisters extreme where she is really outgoing all the time and then on the other side of the fence there’s introvert with varying shades of grey.
,What I want you to have a think about, is just grab a piece of paper and on a scale of one to ten put five out of ten down the middle and anything five below is on the introverted stream and anything five plus is on the extroverted stream.
I just want you to write down where you start in life. So put down where you might have started life. For example I was on the other side of five the low side of five.
Now I want you to do another marking to say where have you have come to now in your life . Now you in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s or whereever you are.
For me, I might of started life as a three or a two and now I have come all the way up to an 8.
I have the flexibility of behaviour now where I can stand up on stage in front of people and I can public speak for a living. So I could probably go naturally from a bit of a three all the way to an eight. That is the breadth of behaviour available to me. What do you have access to?