Refresh your LIFE: Goal Setting for Refreshing Success
Ask yourself why you are interested in goal setting as a topic?
What have been your good and bad experiences with setting goals?
Most people know what they don’t want, very few people know what they do want.
Goal setting is a means of turning our dreams and wishes into reality. It directs our energies so that we move forward to achieve the things we decide we want. It is a technique that can be used in all areas of our lives – spiritual, family, social as well as academic, business and career. Although goal setting is recognised, very few people actually do it. Statistics report that only 3% of people actually commit their goals to paper.
The practice of goal setting enables us to gain greater control over our lives. It ensures our dreams and aspirations don’t fall by the wayside as we are distracted by the daily problems and pleasures which call for our attention.
They give us something to look forward to, something to live for, and build in rewards for our efforts. People with goals are generally enthusiastic and look forward purposefully, happy in themselves and their achievements.
Goals can be big or small. Some may at first seem unrealistic. What makes them realistic are the processes we undertake to put them into action and our belief in and our commitment to achieving them.
In this article, I have set you three exercises from the book, Refresh your Life.
First, find a photo of yourself when you were a child. That child represents your inner child. It also represents your unconscious mind.
The unconscious mind wants to serve you. It can only serve you, if it is given instructions on what it wants. Goals are about giving the unconscious mind instructions, which it goes and gets done.
It gets the goal done by showing you things you wouldn’t have noticed before if you hadn’t set the goal.
Draw a picture of a spider’s web on a piece of paper. Put a dot on the web to indicate something that is of interest. Now that the dot is on the web, the mind will filter IN stuff that relates to that area of interest.
For example, imagine if you have decided to buy a yellow VW. What do you now notice on the roads?
Before you decided, the mind filtered OUT yellow VWs and now the mind filters them IN because you stuck it on your web. The web is called a Reticular Activating System (RAS).
The mind knows it doesn’t want everything filtered in or out. It selects what to show you based on your needs, wants, goals, habits, interests, etc.
Next, go and find your old journals - the ones you wrote as a kid or teenager. Some adults are still writing journals. Collect them all together and have a bit of a read. Write down any themes you notice, any goals you had or dreams.
The old journals, will give you insights into what you wanted in the past and had forgotten about. So you can use these for inspiration and ideas for goal setting.
Make sure you have a brand new journal or notebook.
A new journal is recommended to use so you have a one stop shop for all your ideas, inspirations, goals etc. It signals to your unconscious mind that something new is starting. A new journal signals a fresh start.
Finally, write a speech that someone would read at your funeral about you. It should be a half page to a full page of what kind of person you were, what kind of life you lead, and your major accomplishments and / or special achievements.
To help you, think of the many roles you will play in life:
Business Partner or Work Colleague
Friend and Confidant
Community Leader or Spiritual Advisor
Take a moment to read, practice it, rewrite bits or edit slightly.
This exercise is designed to have you realise that it is the simple things in life that are important. Nobody ever states at a funeral how hard someone worked and how many hours they weren’t there for friends and family.
It is very emotional and a great way to get a feel for what is really important in life and what is your hearts desire to achieve in this lifetime.